I’m sure she’ll feel terrible because she probably was drunk and people do say things when they’re drunk that they’d never say sober.īut whatever she’s comparing you to, the fact is that your marriage has lasted 30 years. How can I handle this? I’m thinking of walking away.įirst of all, you have tell her what you overheard and explain how much it has hurt you, and that you don’t know how you can come back from it.

I keep replaying it in my head and can’t sleep. My wife doesn’t know I heard any of this, although she knows something is wrong. At that point, one of her friends saw me and insisted my wife hadn’t meant anything by what she’d said and that she was just drunk. I was devastated, not least because she’d always said she’d only slept with one other man before me. Then one of her friends asked why this was as she has such a good husband and my wife said: “But he lacks in the trouser department and John was a lot bigger and better in bed.” Then she went on to talk about the other four men she’d slept with who were all bigger than me. None of them saw me standing by the door. I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me and had to hold back the tears. My wife replied: “Another night with John.” I was totally shocked – John was her ex-boyfriend who she lost her virginity with.

One of them asked her if she could go back and do one thing in life that she’s missed over the past 30 years, what would it be?